Gigi Huynh ''Win''

Honestly, we all have our own definition of love. There is the teenybopper love and there is the ancient wife-husband arranged marriage love. 

Let me give you my best definition of love in a single word : admiration. 

When I was a teenager, I fell in love a couple of times with actors, models, popular kid at school, etc. At that time, I admired their beauty - their physical attraits. Now, as I grow older, pretty faces do not suffice my needs. 

Think about it. Being in love is being amazed by someone. Everything else that you think is love are defined by security, friendship, respect, habits, etc. 

So, my friends out there - stop looking by the typical traits like height, eye color, body shape, etc. - start looking by what amazed you. Is it someone creative, entrepreneur, athlete, etc. ?

My current crush : Pete Cashmore, CEO & Founder of Mashable. Lots of admiration for him.

This one is in French for my Frenchies Friends.

La règle universelle de l’amour c’est qu’on la trouve quand on ne la cherche pas. Logiquement, des gens indépendants affectifs attirent beaucoup plus son entourage que les gens en quête d’amour (car on ressent inconsciemment le désespoir chez l’individu de trouver un partenaire). Alors première chose : Ne jamais dire que tu recherches l’amour - parce que la personne à qui tu t’adresses pourrait se sentir comme un bouche-trou.

J’ai fait une compilation pour mes amis célibataires qui sont en quête de l’amour ou de rencontres fructueuses. J’ai toujours rêvé d’être cupidon, alors je me lance pour vous.

Tip #1: Le bénévolat

Ça l’air banale comme ça, mais le bénévolat est selon moi la meilleure activité ”qualité-prix” pour trouver l’âme soeur. C’est le passoir à pépites d’or. Ça ne coûte pas cher (ici on parle de temps) et tu as des chances de trouver des merveilles.

Un bénévole démontre de la générosité, de l’humilité et un sens de responsabilité. Tu viens de sauver une partie de ton portefeuille en évitant des ‘’dates’’ avec ton prospect pour découvrir si elle ou il avait ces valeurs. En plus, la personne que tu croiseras durant le bénévolat aura une perception positive de toi dès le début. 

 

Tip #2:  Les relations publiques avec les amis des amis

Les entreprises priment habituellement les recommendations des pairs pour recruter des employés. La même méthode s’applique parfaitement dans la situation du célibat. Lorsque ton coeur est ouvert à de nouvelles rencontres, passe le mot à tes amis, tes proches, la famille, les collègues, etc. Les gens que tu côtoies te connaissent assez pour te recommander à un ”match” potentiellement parfait. De plus, étant donné qu’il y a une certaine obligation sociale entre le recommandant et toi, la personne aura comme responsabilité de te recommander un individu de qualité - un peu come dans le même contexte d’affaire lorsque quelqu’un recommande un employé.

Tip #3: En ligne, la personnalisation des données

Aujourd’hui, 3 couples sur 5 se sont rencontrés grâce à internet. Je sais que ça sonne un peu banale et non romantique, mais si on regarde d’une approche plus utilitariste, c’est un des moyens le plus efficace et rapide. Tous les sites de rencontres utilisent leur base de données pour vous recommander des célibataires. C’est un peu comme votre ami, mais robotique. En utilisant ainsi les sites, vous pouvez déjà éliminer les personnes qui sont hors de vos normes et rencontrer tous les gens qui sont pré-qualifiés à vos besoins (attributs physiques, valeurs, goûts, géo-localisation).

En espérant que vous trouverez l’amour.

GGG (Good Girlfriend Gigi), votre cupidon. 

Hello my Asian lovers.

If a girl asks you ”Do you like me because I’m Asian” or ”Are you into Asian”?

Best answer: ‘‘if you are wondering if I find you beautiful, the answer is yes.’’

 

Tip #1: Never tell an Asian girl you like Asians

Obviously, every girl wants to feel special and not be liked for one specific feature. If a dude has crushes on Asian chicks, she’ll feel like this dude will go out with any other Asians: ugly, bald, weird, etc. If you are the kind of guy that is an egg (white outside, yellow inside), i.e. you have all the DVDs of Bruce Lee, posters of Jackie Chan, eat General Tao every day and have a Dragon Ball shirt… You are just creepy.

 

Tip #2: Be presentable.

One of the must-have is you being presentable. Tell yourself that no matter what, you’ll need to pass the family test. This includes:

-       Being confident about your future

-       Being able to provide for your family

-       R-E-S-P-E-C-T

-       Casual clothing, Good smell and Good manners.

 

Tip #3: Don’t ask us to tell you Asian words.

‘’Say Hello in Vietnamese’’

‘’How do you say ‘’hello, how are you’’ in Chinese’’?

Please don’t. Just don’t. We’re not dogs – it’s like asking us to do tricks. Just Google it. Google Translation was created for that purpose.

Hope it was helpful.

Ciao my friends.

GGG

Did you kill him afterwards? Did you make him cry? 

Then there is nothing wrong with doing it before the 3rd, 9th, 0th date. It’s bad when the ”why” of you sleeping with the guy is wrong (depends on your values). For example : ”I’m gonna sleep with him because I never slept with a guy where the first name starts with a ”W” ”

Here are some tips when you know it’s OK :

1. Do you want to? If yes. Do it.  If not, don’t.

2. Is the guy single? If yes. Do it. If not, then check-in with you boundaries.

3. Are you in a state you’ll remember? If not - girl, you are too drunk and drinking make people interesting. So, as a good girlfriend, I’m telling you to go home, sleep and it will be for another time. 

4. Does the guy respect you? If yes, it’s a green light. If not, you can treat the guy as much as he treats you. If he just wants to use you, use him as well. It’s a win-win. If you feel like you are too emotionally attached, go away girl, this disrespectful guy won’t respect you anytime soon and don’t think you can change him.

People telling stuff like ‘‘You need to wait the 3rd date, or you need to make him wait, bla bla bla” are so wrong. There is no rule in when and how it’s a good moment to do it. When both parties are ready to go, ”hey ho, let’s go”.

Let me ask you a question : 

If you’ve been waiting 25 dates, spent 1000$ and when the moment has come for the special night … results are bad. [I mean really bad, like starfish bad.] Oh well, what a waste of time! You better know from the start what you are dealing with, rather than fooling around just because a chick flick movie or a girlie magazine told you to wait the 3rd date. 

xoxo

Sincerely, 

Your Good Girlfriend Gigi

Easy question. Easy answer : No.

I believe that in the first 7 minutes that you talk to someone (especially a hot guy), you should not reveal your relationship status. Why?

(1) You already have a boyfriend. Good for you. Give yourself a nice 7 minutes of mystery in your life with this incognito gorgeous man. Your life is already steady, and you sometimes need to feel like you’re still a good piece in the market.

(2) It’s a waste of time. What difference is going to make that you are saying your relationship status? You should not waste the first moments and enjoy where the conversation goes.

(3) Turn-off and socially awkward moment. If you meet a hot guy, and that one of the first thing you say (unless he asks you) it’s ‘’BTW, I have a boyfriend’’. This is totally a turn-off and it slowly gives this awkward moment followed by ‘’nice for you’’ and bye bye gorgeous mysterious man.

For all the girls in couple : don’t be stuck up and enjoy hot man in your entourage - just be faithful and don’t cross that limit.
xoxo
Your Good Girlfriend Gigi